I dated this girl almost 4 years ago and I talk to her every once in awhile. I've gotten better looking girl, girls with better personality, and just straight up cooler girls but I can't seem to shake her when I'm not dating anyone. I always start back up talking to her. What's my problem here?
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Uh, if you loved her they always say that your first love is the one that sticks with you because it is your basis for comparison for what love should be.
And better by whose standard? Yours? Maybe the "better personality" was better for the general population but you prefer the first girl with all her quirks.
My suggestion would be look at what draws you back. Is it her compassion, her genuineness, ect. That is obviously an important quality to you and then go out and find someone that holds these great qualities, while maybe not having some of the qualities you don't like about that girl.
Also, ps, why don't you retry with her? Its been a while, maybe you've both grown and a second shot is due?0