So last night my girlfriend broke up with me over FB (and then unfriended me). She refused to do it on the phone or in person because it would be too hard. She broke up with me because she's a 10-year difference between us (she's 21; I'm 32), and her mom, who she lives with, hasn't ever approved of me because of that age difference. She said that it's not fair to me, that I should have someone I can settle down with, and her mom has made it very clear to her that she won't approve of us (I've only met her mom once, just last week). She says that they've been getting in constant fights and arguments about me, that she's stressed from it. She kept apologizing, that I deserve better, and that I should just "let her go," that she has to do this.
Honestly, I took it pretty hard. I love her, and I know she loves me. I just keep thinking that she's so overwhelmed with this and other stuff and that she just made some snap decision, and that if we had worked more on her mom that things would have eventually been all right.
This is really just the summarized version of events, but is there anything I could do or say to her that might make a difference? I want to see her, but she doesn't think she could be face-to-face...
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You are going to have to move on and never talk to this girl again. She moved on before she left you, plain and simple. This isn't just out of the blue and it's more than just her mom's disapproval, there is something/someone else. She doesn't want to "settle down". When a girl says "you deserve better" they really are talking about themselves not you, and it's meant to "let you down easy" but it always backfires when you see them with someone else (this will happen sooner than you think).
Maturity doesn't really have to do with how old you are when we get to a certain age, it has to do with the person. She dumped you on Facebook, that tells you a lot of things. Either she has already moved on to someone else or she just decided that she doesn't want to see you for any reason. If parents are meant to pick who we are with than many of us would be with the wrong people for the wrong reasons or no one at all.
If everything was good, then she couldn't handle a good relationship, she wants to play and feels she was missing out. Many girls will use some sort of excuse to blame other things when they break up with you so it doesn't seem like they are doing anything wrong. Move on and date other girls. Don't stay in "touch" and don't try to be "friends". You were in love and she wasn't and much as you thought. Get it out of your head thinking that she is innocent in all this. Move on.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE