I and my ex were going out for about three years in half…at the beginning when we first started going out, I wasn’t giving our relationship my all because of what happened with my prior relationship. My ex put it all in the line for me. She would literally do anything for me; it was like love at first sight. But we would still have fights, like over stupid little things….but my only bad habit was every time we would get into fights I would go out and talk to other girls (but never the intention of doing anything with them.) the reason I do that is because I know she was a VERY jealous person and I did it just to mess with her on some ways. (Immature I know) I mean no relationship is perfect. But anyways this girl would go out of her ways for me. Like paying my car when I didn’t have a job, paying for food, buying me shoes and clothes, do nice things for my birthday and stuff…I would do the same for her like paying for her books every semester, letting her borrow money and stuff but at less of an effort from me I guess. We moved in together and everything was going great the first couple months until she started hanging out with her new friends and everything just changes. She would rather hangout with them now instead of me and she said it was because I never wanted to go out with her. Which I thought was BS because we were on a tight budget and we couldn’t afford to go on all the vacation we used too but we would still do movies and nice dine out sometimes. But our relationship was never dull. She would go out and not come home till 2, 3 in the morning and I used to get mad cause she would never call. I really didn’t have a problem with her going out but I had a problem with the people she was hanging out with and I also thought it was kina disrespectful for her to show up home at 2, 3 am when she had a man at home. So I got all lonely on the weekends, I was always home alone. One day I made this nice dinner for her, clean up the house and had the wine ready and was ready to make love to her that night but she never showed up till 2: AM that day. So since I was always lonely at home, I got mad one day and wanted to get back at her so I started talking to this other girl in the process of making my ex mad. Well she found out about it and kicked me out the house. We didn’t talk for like 3months but she would call me block (unrestricted) so we started talking again and was taking things slow until we got into another fight and didn’t talk for a week. After that EVERYTHNG changed. I started thinking about all the stuff that she used to do for me and realized that this girl is the one for me and I should try talking to her again. I came clean and confessed to her and told why I did what I did and I’m sorry for doing that. I mean I pour my heart out to this girl. I was literally like a wild dog chasing a dead meat. I told her just give it one more chances and I can work things out. found out that there is another guy in the mix. how I win her back?
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Hey I saw your post and had to read it and I'm really glad I did. I don't think there's any set way to win back a girl..but I will say this. It wasn't just one of you in the wrong it was both of you. She would stay out late to party and such with her friends, but when that finally pushed you over you childlishly went out and made her jealous. All of this probably could of simply been null if you guys had simply communicated. I know it's not as simple as it sounds but if both of you had put in the time and effort..there's a possibility it would of actually worked. Now I see that you've expressed to her that you know you did something wrong, you've apologized..and you want another chance with her, has she done the same though? There needs to be a point where the two of you meet up and talk that out..you can't have one side open and the other closed..almost as if what she did is less then what you did..because if I'm correct both of you were hurt. The best thing to do now is just be there for her though. Show her that you still care and that you are making an honest effort to turn everything around. Only she can decide that she wants to come back..there is no making her, or winning...you simply have to be the one that she chooses...so remind her why she chose you in the first place man!
I hope everything works out for you
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