I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years already. The relationship is going good I guess you can say. We don't argue we don't fight. We get along. But for me the spark is gone. I don't see myself marrying him or having children with him anymore. there's no really a real reason as to why it all just happened. I feel horrible because I know he loves me and I know he will be sad. He's the very suffer alone type. We broke up once and he never even blinked when the relationship ended but when we got back together he said that he missed me so much but couldn't bring himself to act up on that so he let me go. But now I feel like I want to do more with my life I want to open up a business and have so many goals to accomplish and he seems to be just standing by the sidelines. No ambition...How do you know when its time to end it or if its just a bump in the road that you will over come together?
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I think that you should break up with him. You're hesitant to though, because it's a comfortable relationship. I understand. But you're not doing yourself or him any favors by staying in a relationship where you aren't happy. You could be off dating other people and finding a good match and he could be too.
You said yourself:
- The relationship is going good I guess you can say
- We don't argue, we don't fight. We get along.
- But for me the spark is gone.
Have you tried getting the 'spark' back? Doing nice things for him and encouraging him to do nice things for you? Spontaneous weekend trips? Trying new things out behind closed doors?
And have you communicated to him that you feel like your relationship isn't what you envisioned?
If you have tried, and you're tired of trying, then sit him down and tell him you're done.
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