Almost a year ago, my boyfriend left his girlfriend at the time for me. They had only been together a month, so it wasn't a huge deal. But they haven't stopped talking or flirty texting, and he knows it really bothers me. She only texts him at night, and starts off with a "heyyyy :)" which is either a drunk hey, or a hey get in my pants. Right?
Ever since we argued about it, he doesn't answer her (or else he doesn't in front of me..) and her number isn't in his phone.
I almost can't take it anymore, and we've fought over it several times. Each time, he says she doesn't mean anything, he doesn't see her in person and that its just fun to tease her. I'm not okay with this, and it just isn't getting through to him.
What do you think I should do?
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I would be upfront. Tell him that if he is flirting back, or if he is talking to her behind your back, you consider it cheating and it makes you feel uncomfortable. Ask him if you can go through his phone, but ask him face to face so he can't delete things before handing it to you. If he won't let you go through it, something is going on that he doesn't want you to know about. As for him deleting her, he could have her under a different name, I know people that do that. If you want to stay with him all you can do is let him know if makes you uncomfortable and you don't want him talking to her, at all.
You could also go the immature way and start texting your ex, or just another guy in general who is physically attractive and will make you beau worry. Text them in front of him and laugh or smile when you notice him watching you. Most likely he will ask what, and you can be like "Oh, nothing. James just said the funniest thing." and leave it at that.
I would go the high road though.0