Recently, my girlfriend decided to end our relationship because, she said, she didn't think her family would ever approve of me (I'm older) and that they were piling stress on her about our relationship (which I knew was true). A few days later, she called me, emotional, and came clean that she had slept with a guy from one of her classes the previous weekend before we broke up. We were supposed to go out that night, her family finally laid down the law about the two of us and wouldn't let her go, and things seemed pretty hopeless. She ended up getting drunk and sleeping with this guy. He, of course, doesn't want anything to do with her since he probably got all he wanted.
All she kept saying on our phone conversation, though, was how she screwed up our relationship, had loved me so much, and just hadn't known what to do, because things felt hopeless for us. I was numb at the time and pretty much just tried to calm her down. We've only done casual texts since then.
I've been cheated on before in another relationship and have walked away without looking back (that girl didn't seem to feel bad for what she did), and that was always my one "no way, no how" about being with someone: I don't need to be with cheaters. The thing is, why am I feeling differently with her? I've had very little emotional anger or reaction to the cheating...yeah, I'm hurt, but it's almost like I got over it. I only think about my feelings for her and how hurt she sounded for what she did. From what I know, she's never cheated before (she's been cheated on, though, so she's feeling like it's karma for her), and part of me is considering giving her another chance (though the family stuff is still an issue), with stipulations.
I don't know. I'm conflicted because of these feelings. Am I crazy for thinking this?
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Ok time to wake up dufus, FACTS are:
she cheated on you
she lied about it
she has been cheated on so she knew how hurtful it is to do that to someone else, but still did it
she could simply have ended the relationship and then go ahead with someone else
she deflects responsibility on her family
she "loves you so much" yet still went on and f***ed someone else
What else do you need to understand she's a selfish bitch?2