I have this situation which is literally tearing apart my heart, soul and future. I have never felt this stressed and depressed in my life.
Basically, I dated a girl for a year and a half but ended it because I could not see myself marrying here.
Soon afterward, I started dating another girl. They way we feel towards each other is incredible. We have been seeing each other for about 2.5 months and both have confessed that we are really into each other, and are heading towards saying we love each other in the next few months if things keep going the way they are. She means the world to me and I mean the world to her. We both have dated plenty of people but have not felt as strongly towards our past partners as we have towards each other. This is one of those situations where you just "know" you are right for each other.
Fast-Forward about a month and a half into our relationship and I find out my ex-gf is pregnant with what appears to be my kid, from the end of previous relationships. I figure there isi a good chance that it is mine since I heard through friends about the pregnancy, and she has offered to take a paternity test to prove it.
My current girlfriend and I are completely devastated, as we both know that this will probably tear her apart from me, as she mentioned she is not sure if she could emotionally handle me being around my ex all the time when the kid comes. She has mentioned how torn she is about the situation- if it does end up happening she mentions she will not know what to do. She will be torn between choosing between what her heart feels and what she thinks she knows what is best for her in the long run.
What do I do, we both do not want to lose each other over this.
Regareding "lessons learned", she was on the pill and I used condoms. the condom broke one time towards the end (during her most fertile day). And the pill apparently failed.
WE WERE CAREFUL!
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I don't know if I could handle that situation your girlfriend is in, it would eat me up inside known she's had your baby, and its your first child which is special and its not with me, even though you are not togither long its just the bond you and your ex girlfriend are going to share would tear me apart and I couldn't deal with your ex girlfriend coming over with the kid, I wouldn't treat the kid diffrent but it would be hard, and if you really do mean the world to her, she would stick by your side no matter how hard the sitatuon is and it is a lot of baggage or a short time togither, but if she does stick by your side she will be the 'one' for you.
Hold her hands look into her eyes and tell her you want her in your life, your sorry for the sitatuon but you would be devastated to lose her for good as she means a lot to you in this short of time you feel someone special is there and it would be a shame to end it, explain how gutted you would actually be open up your heart to her and if she does give it a chance then that's amazing but if she doesn't then you will need to let go
your number one priority is now going to be your baby kid, and it would take a lot for a girl who isn't the mother to be 2nd best in your life.
there is basicly nothing I can say to make things better for you apart from live and learn and I'm so sorry your heartbroken by what is happening in your life, I feel your pain. I hope things work out for you and best of luck0