She was my first, and I still love her. She says she is not in a good place personally and she needs time to get well. I told her I would be there for her but I can't be "just friends". She said she loves me. Any advice or words of wisdom? I'm reeling right now...
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As cliche as it sounds, try your best to go no contact. It's the best way to resolve your own emotional stuff. When you come to terms with all of that, THEN revisit the issue of being friends. I think too many people do it backwards and it just doesn't work that well. Let all the emotional debris get cleaned up first before trying to be friends. When you try to be friends right off the bat, it just drags out those lingering feelings and makes getting over all of it even harder.
It sucks to be given a bs reason like that, but do your best to keep to yourself and away from her. Find a friend to talk to about it and help sort your feelings out a bit. Then get busy doing you. It's rough, but it's the best approach.0