This question has been on my mind the whole day and I couldn't find an answer. I guess it's subjective and that's why I'm asking you GAGers :)
After having a heartbreak (being in a long and serious relationship with a person you loved very much), would you fall easily for another guy (who is very nice and loving) or would you be very cautious, less trusting and probably would push him away no matter how nice he is?
Some people would fall easily because they are deprived of love and need it badly and some wouldn't fall at all because they are afraid to get hurt once more.
How do you think of it? :)
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Well yeah. I guess it depends on the kind of crap you go through with your past relationships. I can start to like someone easily, but I've only fallen in love maybe three times, and I'm pretty sure this one is the be-all-end-all for me.
Ok so, there are some people who snap into love right away, or they convince themselves of it, and that can sometimes be from just plain desperation, but those people are not in love. That is not love. I don't think it is. It's not real. It's fleeting. It's desire. It's sad. It's temporary, and will never last. I used to hop around from one girl to the next, and one bad relationship to the next, but I never convinced myself that it was love.
So yeah, for me, love is special. I can't say I've ever nailed down a time for it, because I needed to actually be in love. It needed to be very special for me to love them.
Now assuming you're not talking about real love, and just talking about liking someone, caring for someone, wanting someone, and dating someone, then that's an entirely different case. I've been burned alot, but I eventually date someone else. As to how close I get, or how much I let in is a different story, but it always takes courage to really do it. Still there are rules and guidelines to this sort of thing.
I actually covered that once before on this site. ( link ) Maybe you can give it a read. Still, you need to decide this for yourself. Ultimately this depends on you and when you do think you're ready, you'll still need to be brave, and decide whether you're brave enough to try again.
I wish you the best of luck with this.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE