I've been with my girlfriend on and off for the last two years. We've been long distance for the last 18-months and it gets really difficult to see each other sometimes.
Lately she's become extremely depressed, she cries all the time and says very dark things, like she wants to go to sleep and not wake up, or like she just wants to leave and go somewhere and not tell anyone where she's going. She has also cut herself on more than one occasion.
She recently had a big falling out with her best friend, and she now doesn't really have any friends because of it. She relies completely on me for her happiness but I have my own problems at home which I never get to deal with because I'm too busy trying to help her.
She's talked about suicide to me before, which is really upsetting, but she doesn't seem to want professional help. She just wants me to make her happy.
But I'm sick of all the pressure, how depressed she is constantly brings me down and I always feel totally responsible for her.
I've been thinking of breaking up with her and telling her parents about her mental state. I'm the only person who knows how depressed she really is as she won't open up to anyone else.
I don't want this to happen, but I don't see any other way around it any more, I think she'd be better off without me.
Any advice would be much appreciated
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Do NOT dump her until you are SURE she is getting some help!
Definitely tell her parents (and her best friend too), make sure she is getting the help she needs, THEN tell her that you think it would be best for her (not that she's been all depressed downer bitch lately) to be able to focus on herself and making herself happy. Please, please, please be gentle! I only say don't dump her til you are sure because that could be the thing that pushes her over the edge, so just be very gentle & make sure she is getting help.0