My boyfriend is just too needy and wants for me to make him the center of my life. He calls me nonstop and CONSTANTLY is questioning my feelings for him which has made them dwindle. He's a really nice guy and I'd like to maintain a friendship with him but I can't deal with him as a boyfriend. He is sloppy and doesn't have hygiene on par with mine. I did his laundry and food poop stains in like ALL of his underwear. WTF? He's a grown man. He lives off disability checks and money his mom gets him. He has no job and isn't pursuing and scholastic goals. He's just not going where I want to go. He doesn't even own a car and rather spend $200 on video games than save up for one. I'll come home from work or school and he's just sitting there, just waking up or playing games. Hasn't tried to find a job, to look into school, to do anything except work out. He lost A LOT of weight but to me, if you're grown and the main thing you want to do in life is get muscular you need to grow up.
I met a new guy who is me my speed and has goals and a lifestyle I can mesh with. We're just talking but I'm asking on a moral but also keeping in mind that it might not go anywhere note, some advice on what to do? Should I just leave my boyfriend right now when I'm just interested in this guy or should I wait it out and see if it's going to go anywhere. I know it's kind of wrong but on the same note I'm so pissed at my boyfriend that I don't care. He's put me through so much drama and whenever something doesn't go his way he'd threaten me with breaking up etc. so idk.
Also, if I really start dating this guy should I tell him I have a boyfriend or tell him I'm just leaving my boyfriend? I've never been in this position before and I'm really confused.
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Perhaps you leaving this guy is the slap in the face he needs to grow up, or get motivated. I think your making this whole ordeal much bigger than it actually is. You want out, that's all there is to it. I don't care about another guy getting your interest or all the reasonings you have for leaving. If you feel drawn to leave then obviously it's what you have to do for yourself.
As far as what's right yes you should break up with one guy before you get serious with another... But that's just ethics, anyone who preaches them usually has no right to be preaching in the first place lol If you believe in kharma it's probably a good thing to break off one realtionship before starting another. Hope you find your answers, good luck0