My boyfriend and have been living together for not quite a year yet. He seems to start to be a bit controlling. For example...
the other night I got home 10 minutes early he says "why are you home so early, you normally are home at 6. Did you leave work early or didn't go to work?" I say "I went by the clocks at work that is why I am home." He just let it go.
Our cable TV is in his name. I asked him to please order a certain channel for me and the kids because I love this channel. I would pay the increase each month. He ignored me for a few minutes and then questions why I need it, then says "if you want it then order it." I told him I cannot it is in his name, but if he wants to add me he can and then I will order it. He has yet to do it, been a week and I have politely reminded him twice.
He has no kids, I have 3. The other night one of my got up during the night and he was questioning them why they needed to get back up, etc. Earlier that nite, my boys were getting rowdy in THEIR bedroom and he comes downstairs to me and says "Those boys need to calm the f*** down." And just gives me this look. So I went upstairs and asked my kids to calm down, and they immediately did.
He got home from work this morning cause hew works 3rd shift and comes in the bedroom to talk. He left the room to get a drink and comes back. Says "I smell perfume in here. I didn't before now I do. Are you wearing it, did you get up out of bed? I am smelling it now and didn't before." I assured him I didn't have perfume on. He just started getting questioning about it.
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he doesn't sound controlling he just sounds as one poster said ill equipped to handle the life you lead. He sounds like he is selfish and immature for the level of relationship you and your children problem need. I don't hear controlling behavior I just hear immature behavior based on your descriptions.
I think you probably have to sit down and think to yourself is this guy really the right person to be my partner and the father of my children. Is he prepared? will he be able to learn and adjust? Because what you're describing sounds like a guy who just isn't ready to handle the responsibilities, maturity, and level headedness a relationship would require when it involves a woman and her children.0