My ex left me recently after 14 years together, and a child together. I noticed this slow downward spiral of our relationship for the last two years. I tried to make it better but a lot of the things I did were wrong. The more I pulled him the more he pushed away. He left several times in the two years. We had huge financial problems and other personal problems also. He started hanging out with his old friends and family a lot and never being home. He changed his look and he acted different. Now he's gone, he says he still loves me but doesn't think we should be together. Then he agreed to be together, then he took it back and said I still don't know. I feel him struggling with what to do, how do I make him choose to give us another chance? His problems with me were that he said I was needy and nagging and acted like his mother. Please help.
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tough situation. Financial hardships are a freakin dagger because they can lead, create and bring a whole array of issues. It sounds like you two need the help of a a therapist who can help you two vocalize your issues in a productive setting and then provide aide in overcoming those issues. I don't know that we can provide the answers you need as it sounds like as you said it's been a long downward spiral and you seem to be staring up from the bottom of a deep hole that you can't dig out of. If you are commited to making it work try to find a relationship therapist to help mediate those issues and provide you two with the tools to overcome those issues
best of luck!1