So my girlfriend cheated on my between December and January and I decided to work things out with her. She is 19 and I'm 20 going on 21 in a few weeks. Neither of our families know she cheated on me but at around 8 months she cheated on me with a guy in her math class. I've been trying to get over it but eventually it keeps popping back in my head that I got cheated on. This girl was honestly the first girl I can say that I actually loved and feel love for. I care for her a lot and want our relationship to work and she has told me she also loves me. She told me the same things before and I just don't know if it is totally unsalvageable or if I can eventually get over the cheating. She only cheated on me for about a month before I found out and since has stopped talking to the guy completely and cut all ties. She says she wants to fix things but I'm not sure if I can feel the same way as I did before she cheated on me.
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So if you found out that she cheated and that's when she stopped? So it can be assumed that if you hadn't found out, she'd still be doing it?
In the end, you have to know if you want to pursue this relationship but if I were you, I would not. I don't know if it's right to say "once a cheater, always a cheater" as it seems to generalise a lot and there must exceptions. In your case, however, the relationship only lasted 8 months and she cheated on you for a whole month, and probably would have done so much longer if you hadn't caught her.
If this happened to one of my friends, I would tell him to move on and forget about the girl. I know that's easier said than done, but sometimes we have to do things that hurt us for a bit so that we can find happiness eventually.
You're only 20, almost 21, there are girls out there who will not cheat on you and betray your trust. So I'm thinking it would be best to leave this girl and find someone who doesn't make you feel horrible, because clearly, she does.0