But, he also is on antidepressants (started a couple months ago), and blames his "depression" on me. I'm using quotations because he hasn't truly been diagnosed. He also willingly admits that he was "depressed" before he met me.
I, on the other hand am too controlling - probably due to the fact that I was abused as a child, and lost my father from suicide at the age of 12. My parents also divorced when I was young enough to know and remember what was going on. I think these things have contributed to my thinking.
Most of our fights start from his temper, or me being controlling - then escalate from there. He prefers to ignore me when we fight - or, to freak out, run through every thing I've ever done wrong, insult me then ignore me. I feel like I NEED to talk things out during a fight but am able to without being irrational or losing my temper too much. This just fuels it more, and we end up even more angry at each other.
Lately we've been fighting more, and I'm not sure if it's just because our relationship has run it's course, or because we aren't working hard enough to change.
Every two days lately we've been getting into huge fights, he loses his temper easier and I'm not sure why.
When we're good, we're really good. & When we're bad, we're awful.
How do I know if it's time to give up? I can't handle this roller coaster much longer
Also, he refuses to see a therapist, and has been doing nothing but sleeping until 2pm and playing video games, or going to the bar for the past 2-3 weeks. No gym or anything. I'm suspicious if it's his meds contributing, but it's too touchy for me to talk about with him.
If anyone could provide some insight it would be great.
Also, we have a two week vacation in Ireland booked for June. If we really break up, I don't want to go - and if nothing changes and we're together, I'm not going to feel comfortable. But he'll be out $2000.00 if I back out.
He threatens me when we fight, with breaking up, not talking to me, or not following through with something. And frequently insults me when we're fighting. It's no huge deal for him to call me a ****, in his eyes. I'm so confused - he's either the sweetest guy I've ever met, or the worst.
But I can't decide if the good outweighs the bad or not...
I'm sorry this is so long. I really am...
He planned this mostly by himself, but also was going to the travel agent during the times when he was constantly threatening to break up with me - which doesn't make much sense to me.
He's always threatened a break up, so I can't tell if he's bluffing or not anymore.
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I wouldn't say your relationship has run its course, it just needs some work. You both have experienced some serious issues throughout your lives and need to accept them and grow from them in order to become healthier and move on.
Would you consider therapy? Individually first, then separate.1
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