Five years ago, I met this guy on tour and we instantly clicked. We spent the entire tour together, literally acting like a couple, and it was some of the best days of my life. After the tour was over, we tried to keep a long-distance relationship and Skyped every day, but it was getting too hard. We saw each other twice after the tour and had a great time, but after two years of dating online, we decided it'd be best if we remained friends considering the likelihood of seeing each other again was so rare.
A couple of months after that happened, I met the love of my life. We've been together for three years and know we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Although I'm conscious of the strong feelings I had for my long-distance boyfriend, I never let it get in my way from my relationship today... until just about yesterday.
A few weeks ago, my ex messaged me on Facebook and told me he was on tour again and was passing by my city in a couple of weeks (that day was yesterday). I was immediately excited to go see his show and see him again after all of these years. I never thought it would've been as hard as it was though... Last night I went to see him alone, and all of the feelings came back. It was so hard saying goodbye, especially after he tried to kiss me. Now I'm in my apartment contemplating whether to go back up and see him today (he's in town until tomorrow), or let those feelings go and not let them interfere with my current relationship.
What should I do? Part of me wants to go see him and really want to sleep with him - especially since I never got to be very physical with him since we mostly dated online. But part of me also knows there's no future with him and that I shouldn't sabotage what I have today.
Any help is appreciated...
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"But part of me also knows there's no future with him and that I shouldn't sabotage what I have today."
You should listen to that part.
Look, sabotage is what it will be. I've seen way too many people go screw around on their partner, only to have that sh*t surface again months, even years later, in one way or another. When you do something like this, you're basically setting a ticking time bomb for yourself, and you have no idea when it will go off or how. The only guarantee is that IF it does, it will be extremely destructive.1