So, what should I do? Should I keep up this "chilled" act for as long as possible, or should I tell him the true extent of my feelings for him? It's not so drastic that it's changed my personality, or that I've been lying about who I am to him for all this time, it's more just me being open about something I find really important yet sometimes I'm too worried to vocalise. Thanks for your time, I'd appreciate any advice (:
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It just sounds like the borderline obsessive mode that starts at the beginning of a promising relationship lol. Been there, trust me, scared away at least one guy like that lol. Just keep it chill, maybe ask him to hang out together and try to keep calm (no clawing out other girls eyes :P). My ex was a clingy guy, and for some girls he'd be awesome. For me? Not so much lol. I'm a chill person but the way I that I've found that works to let guys know feelings towards them isn't so much through talking or anything, but touching (don't make it sloppy and trashy). Don't be shy, make it natural (i.e. don't full on grope him lol) but if your sitting next to him, sides touching, (or if your really brave, like I was in rare fashion lol, legs tangled practically on top of him, only recommend this if you REALLY know him.) or in the back seat of a car be willingly squished together, especially for no reason (this happened over the weekend, when another friend was driving with his girlfriend was in the front, full seat next to us, remained squished even after the other friend sitting next to us had already left. ^^) Now, there is a disclaimer, this person and I have had a mutual crush on and off for three and a half years and have flirted physically (never moving past gentle body brushes or tickling) and verbally intermittently through out that time (the interruption was when I had a long term boyfriend for about 1.5 years which recently ended, he was the clingy guy mentioned earlier), so what he finds attractive and cute might not be the same for a guy you've been 'cool' with and suddenly leap to medium. You might want to start off with just a little closer hugs (my favorite way to hug guys/to be hugged is to wrap my arms around their neck and press my body against them while their arms wrap around my waist) or a kiss on the cheek just to differentiate him between how you treat friends and family.