My ex and I work together. He broke up with me 9 months ago after dating me for a year. He pursued me hard at first. But, he broke up close to year saying he got really scared. This is his first serious relationship ever (he's 23), and he feels like he has a lot more to accomplish in life before taken on the responsibility of a serious relationship. He said he didn't know that about himself, and he genuinely cared (and still cares) for me.
He has tried so hard in the last few months to stay friends. Everyday at work, he tries to talk to me. He always tries to make conversation even though I ignore him and am so cold. He always confronts me asking why we can't just be friends. He is geniunely trying, and it breaks my heart to see him try so hard and get nothing back from me (clearly I am reeeeally soft..lol). But I am still really hurt over the break up.
I still love him and think I get along more with him more than anyone else in my life. I really care about him still. Why is he trying so hard and so genuinely to be friends? Why would boys do this? What should I do?
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I'd say don't read too much into it,most guys do this kind of stuff because they feel guilty. And they always say that they "still care" about their exes deeply. Let me tell you this, after every break up whether I initiated it or my ex, they would always say that same BS. Because guys know girls' soft spot. they know what we want to hear. Unfortunately being friends with an ex is not a good idea. If he really regrets breaking up with you and wants you back, make him work for it. Don't give in easily. He needs to prove that he is worthy of your second chance girl. Come on you are young and I'm sure you will find another guy who will treat you like a queen and will never even risk losing you. Hugs! Good luck! It will be ok!1