I replied, "If whoever in this world who told you promises are meant to be broken is a very stupid person. If you are thinking about breaking that promise, then break it yourself. I'm not quitting yet. I'll carry it as a burden. I'll open so that you will always be accepted. That promise, if it doesn't mean anything to you, then it means a lot to me."
After that, she hated me. She ignores me whenever we are at school. She doesn't even talk to me. Now I miss her . . . a lot, A WHOLE LOT. I want to talk to her the same way as we once did. Am I the one who should sorry about it?
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Promises are not meant to be broken. That goes against the whole definition of promises. Promises are made so that people will keep their word. If everybody broke their promises, then nobody could trust anybody. What happened to honor? People used to make promises, and they followed up on it.
You don't need to say sorry. You didn't do or say anything wrong. You shouldn't have said "stupid person" though, because it probably isn't something she was told. It was probably something she remembers. Also, because you consider the promise still intact, she feels the negative pressure that she can't date anyone else, otherwise she feels regret when she remembers the promise, and she doesn't like that you made her feel regret.
I'm Chinese, and it is more traditional that I don't date until I finish college. Studies are important. Stable jobs are important. You can really see how committed someone is when you see their promise wavering. I know you miss her a lot, but if she doesn't feel that she can not date until college is finished, then no matter what you do, you won't be able to change her. I'm also Buddhist, and as the saying goes, everything is "impermanent". But that is a very wrong twist on things. We know everything is impermanent, but it is our intentions that matter. We can't just talk about impermanence and then hasten the process. Also, impermanence has nothing to do with relationships.
Although you didn't do anything wrong, if you apologize, that might make her see the light of day. (She shouldn't have told you that over Facebook though. Also, could it have been someone else who logged on to her Facebook account and typed that in? If so, then she would know nothing about it and would think that you broke the promise. This is why face-to-face communication or phone communication is better sometimes.) I've found in my experience that apologies, no matter for what reason, are really moving. Even if apologies are not accepted, at least you tried (if you do apologize).1