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You are upsetting his current life arrangements...he also feels he's falling into a pattern with you that he can't maintain, and he's not obviously ready or a relationship with you.
He 'hates' you because you don't 'fit his plans..'''
It sounds like you are, after all, on the same page...walking the same road..toeing the same line...and many other cliché phrases.
But you aren't in agreement on where you are going, are you?
You have to decide if you are in earnest about breaking up..or not!
Either ride this longer, or be cold and decided about really having 'no contact.' You failed because you had contact!