It was more of a sexual chatting and pictures type thing than an emotional connection. But honestly, it is very scary and disgusting to me that he actually sent strangers nude photos of himself!
I am trying to decide whether or not it actually makes any difference to me if he physically interacted with these women or not; for me the intent to betray and seek out something outside of our relationship was still there. What is so confusing is that I have never seen any signs of any behavior like this the entire time we have been together and we live together. I have asked if he has an addiction and he seems appalled at the idea of that. He is so remorseful and swore on his life that he would never jeopardize us again. So why did you? Do these kinds of patterns begin out of nowhere? Will he really stop? These girls weren't even attractive?
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That's pretty disheartening to hear and I have to preface this with I'm jaded I've been dating since I was 17 and every guy I've ever dated and having been in relationships myself I've never been happy for more than two years, after two years I start looking for new options. I have to say I have always had disfunctional relationships but well that's another story. Men are incredibly sexual creatures and the idea of complete fidelity is very difficult. I would say that maybe setting up ground rules if you can tolerate it would be the best thing you could do if you love this guy and you want to be with him then that's what you've got to do. The best you can hope for is that he deosn't send pictures to someone one of you know cause awkward. But really this is a very mild form for "infedelity" I honestly believe that most attractive men have sex outside their relationships on a regular basis unattractive men I think it is less common but if the opportunity arose I honestly don't think they would pass it up. I guess it really is person to person, the truth is that he's lying to you about what he's doing and that's not a good thing. My problem in relationships was that I never would lie and my boyfriends hated that I would tell them that I slept with someone else when we were broken up. They hated me for it, but I was always honest I promised not to lie when I got sober. I hate that people lie but people do it. You've got to decide what your priorities are you have to sit down and weigh the pros and cons and figure out if this is going to drive you crazy and also figure out if you are OK with this because you are the one who has to live with it no body else and no body can tell you what to do. I'm sending you the warmest wishes, the biggest hugs and lots of love from a single girl whose cheated (only to escape abusive relationships you tell them you slept with someone else they let you go FINALLY) and been cheated on over and over again. I don't believe in fidelity. I don't think it exists. Maybe you could get him to go to marriage counseling or if you active in a church they often do free counseling with the pastor or holy figure.