Now I wasn't sure whether or not to put this in health, but whatever. So I've been seeing this girl for a little bit and we haven't had sex yet, I got out of a loooong relationship and want to take things a little slow. But the topic of herpes somehow came up and she said that she has both kinds. I feel really really weird about this as I am lucky enough that I don't have either (genital or cold sores). And ever since she told me I have been seriously thinking about ending it, as the only way I would subject myself to that is if I knew I wanted to marry her and that never even crossed my mind. So I'm going to end things, I just have to figure out how.
So this more of a question to you. If you started seeing someone and found out they had herpes or genital warts or some other incurable non-deadly disease that you don't have, would you break up with them?
- I'd try to figure out a way to work things out.Vote A
- I'd break up with them classily.Vote B
- I don't care about getting those diseases.Vote C
- Man, I already have all those!!Vote D
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I would. In a heartbeat, I would. I really hope she was going to tell you before you two got down to bidness, but since you say the topic just happened to come up, that makes me think she WOULD NOT have told you. I also want to assure you that you are not wrong for not wanting to contract herpes. And you would be well within your rights to tell her that you don't want to be with her *because* she has herpes- I mean, come on, that's fair!
I'm actually righteously indignant on your behalf, I think you must be a really, really good person because you don't seem as pissed off as *I* am pissed off FOR you. She may be on suppresive therapy, and she may have had every intent to make sure you wore a condom, but the fact is that herpes can still be spread- it depends on where her lesions pop up. The information is out there, read up on it. Better yet, send it to HER.1