What could be the reason my little sister has been so socially withdrawn?

I've been taking care of my little sister for a couple months, my parents are out of the country on a research project. They are gone most of the time. When I first started living back at home we hung out every day. We ate all our meals together, went on hikes and just chilled. We weren't that close before I went to college and moved out and it has been nice to unexpectedly get this close. The last month she has withdrawn from everything, so fast. It was like one day everything was fine and the next she didn't want to do anything. She rarely leaves her bedroom, won't tell me what's wrong, and isn't doing anything with friends like she used to. I've tried to figure it out but she won't tell me. Any ideas? She' s 15


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  • She is an adolescent, she is probably depressed because someone or a guy in particular probably hurt her maybe. Also it is the time to find "yourself" and who you trulyfit in with. 15 was actually my year that I was extremely distant with my mom and sister but then once I turned 16, I found who I truly was, hung out with peers my age and realized that I love to spend time with my mother and sister and it was all just a phase that mostly everyone goes through. It was just a new and unfamiliar stage for me to go through, it was both exciting and awkward. I think you should talk to her, but not in a sit-down talk kind of way, be very casual and ask her what's really goiing on, find a place where she would most likely feel comfortable to speak out. If she is not doing anything with her friends or does not go out like she normally does, it truly sounds like she is depressed. I know how depression feels like and the first and last time I have experienced it was at 15, coincidence? I did not want to go out, talk to anyone but my close friends and I despised hanging around with my family at the duration of 4 months. She is a teenager, its seems pretty normal but its not healthy for her to go through. If she does not want to tell you, don't bother her about it, just simply say "i am totally here if you need me for anything sis" when she wants to speak, she will speak. And think about the amounts of pressure that might be going on in school. She will come out of her shell eventually :) hope this helps and tell me how it goes!

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  • Definitely sounds like there was a specific trigger, maybe something happened at school since she's no longer socialising with friends. Is bullying a possibility? Does she have a best friend you could contact?

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  • something is wrong with her..maybe school , boys, maybe she feels weird being close to you she isn't used to it and it is scaring her that happens sometimes.

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  • Something happened that made her feel that way, unless she is depressed. If she is depressed like born with it or something triggered it a while ago she may float in and out of these stages and there doesn't have to be a specific thing to trigger. Most likely her boyfriend broke up with her or she misses her parents or she's in a fight with a friend. Ask her what's wrong and don't take "nothing" for an answer. It will make her feel good to know you care. Respect her though if she doesn't want to talk about it, but she has to admit she's not feeling the best. I used to go through this and it was all the stress. School, friends, family, money, it's all pressure. Being a teenager is hard because you're still finding out who you are. Mostly just let her know you care about her and you will be there for her.

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  • She could be depressed. Teenage depression is more common than you would think, unfortunately. Try asking her if she wants to talk to you about anything (or talk to anyone else, like a therapist). If she starts showing signs of suicidal intent or threatens to kill herself, call an ambulance immediately. She is in dire need of help. If it never comes to that and she just won't open up to you, let her be. You can only do so much.

    Good luck, and I hope she feels better soon. :)

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  • i'm sure it's friend/boy related or maybe grade related. at that age that's pretty much all it ever is...that does not mean it can't be completely and totally serious to her and the end of her world and you shouldn't act like whatever is bothering her(if she confesses) isn't something she should be upset about or she should just "get over it" cause it's not a big deal to you. she doesn't have the emotional experience that adults have and experience is all that can salve that problem. unfortunately this is how teenage girls are (yes you knew we were crazy but... no seriously we are emotionally a mess)

    try to find things to force her to get out and about...take her to the movies, out to eat, get her to play video games with you or just go out with you and you might even try sharing a time you felt this way and what caused it. Girls need to talk stuff out even if they don't like or want to it almost always makes us feel better (unlike boys who don't want to express their feelings) so this is you getting a taste of what it's like to parent a teenage girl as a single father. Good luck! lol

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