Me and my ex broke up four months ago. Since then we started hanging out just as friends we did hook up a few time's. Then about a month ago he told me he has a girlfriend which hurt but I was dating other men too and made him fully aware of that so I had to be OK with the new girl friend. Since then he texts me about once a week but never anything flirty. I really didn't think I wanted him back till I saw him with the new girl. Since then I have been tring not to think about him or text him or anything and just move on. Today he texted and has offered to watch my kids while I work so I will see him everyday and he wants to know if next week he can bring his girl friend a few days next week. If I do want him back what is the best thing to do here. I don't know if I'm going to be able to handle seeing him with his new girl.
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Hit the pause button...
Since there's kids involved that makes this more important than the average situation.
We read our mothers better than they think we do. Remember being little and watching the daily panorama of emotions that crossed your mother's face?
If you think there's going to be a tense situation, and your ex is really into this new girl, then just bow out. Tell him you're not ready to have his new girlfriend in the house with your children, and while you're at it, I'd suggest thinking twice about having him there at all.
Keep your family's boundaries intact. If something uncomfortable crosses those barriers it affects all of you.
Stop him at the point before it gets really weird for you all, and tell him what is going on in your heart and mind. Once you deal with the issue and have some closure on the subject, reconsider having him and her over to watch the kids.1
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