After another month I said it made me wonder if he was waiting for her to come back and asked him outright if he had feelings for her. I'm not really jealous of her but I also don't want to invest time being with someone who is still in love with an ex and I asked him how would he feel if I had a guys dumbells on my bedroom floor, boxers on my shelf and shaving gel in my bathroom (like he lived there and was out at the shops), he said he was over her and that he really should clear it out (and he did clear a few bits out). Don't get me wrong I have no issue with him keeping stuff from their time together, I don't even mind him still being in touch with her, but it's in my fact I am literally tripping over her stuff all the time (including her coffee mug in the kitchen cupboard - front and centre). I feel there is no room for me in his life and I'm visiting him and his exs flat when there.
Another month on and yesterday I found her stockings in the hall (the cat was sleeping on them in a small cupboard). And I feel like maybe it's time to cut and run. Again I decided to be up front and ask him about it (I don't believe in just going silent and expecting him to know why I am upset) and he just said he'd forgotten they were there. He said I am important to him and it's me he wants to be with.
I am feeling like there are just too many people in this relationship and wondering if I should end it before I get hurt.
Any views would be great please...