For some reasons, a relationship may not last. But the love at the beginning is real. At least you did love him at a moment in the past. So, girls, if you really loved him before, how do you break up with your boyfriends?
Any explanation is welcome. Thanks!
- Do it in person.Vote A
- Text.Vote B
- Email.Vote C
- Phone.Vote D
- Never contact him again and move on.Vote E
Most Helpful Girl
In person, always. Regardless of what your feelings might be now, at one point you shared a bond with them and you owe it to them to sit them down in person.
It sucks no matter how you do it to be sure, but treating someone like they don't matter will only make it worse. And if I loved him at one point, odds are he'll always have some sort of importance in my life and I'll wish him well even if I don't think we'll work out as a couple.
I've only broken up with one guy that I was once in love with- we had a conversation about how we wanted completely different things out of life and I ended it. We're still cordial when we see each other, I sent a card when he got married, and he always sends a birthday card to my parents house for my birthday.
On the flip side- I was once SUPER angry and not altogether rational when breaking up with a guy who had actually had a girlfriend BEFORE we started dating and continued seeing us both without telling either of us. I was hurt, confused, upset and just plain pissed- but I broke it off in person. I'll be honest and say that wasn't such a nice conversation- I confronted him, listened for half a second about how he never meant it to happen, he cared about both of us etc., then told him it was over because I can't be with someone I can't trust or someone who would do that to people he says he cares about. Then I basically left and didn't answer his calls except to ask him not to call/text/email. Once I got some distance from it, I was able to run into him on campus (I was in college at this point) and say hello politely rather than pretending I didn't see him. We don't talk and I haven't seen him in 2 years.
Two very different break ups, but they're the only relationships I've ever ended (I've been on the receiving end for a few others) and they were both done in person. I don't think I would do it another way- it's just not fair.3