I was in a very serious relationship for a year and half. We had an unusual situation in the sense that we're from opposite sides of the world with no mutual friends and started sharing a hotel room after knowing each other for 2 months, we lived in the same room for about 9 months. Our relationship then went long distance for a few months, though when I moved to his city (and not for him) we mutually ended things so we could focus on ourselves. However, he was and still is the only person I know here so we would hang out, 3 months passed of us not being together but being heart broken friends. He and I were very much still in love. He completely poured his heart out to me saying he will always be in love with me, he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now with anyone but he hasn't stopped loving me and won't. Then a few days later I was blocked out of his life. Deleted on fb, instagram, twitter. I gave him 5 or so days of no contact but eventually had to reach out to him because I have been on the verge of depression. I said I need to see him, a friend, just to tell me I will be okay and to give me hope. He ignored me for the first time, ever. The following day he asked if I was okay and I said I need to see a friend, then he told me he met someone that week (5 days ago) and is dating them.
So, it's been a week. They are Facebook official 'in a relationship' he's using names like beautiful and darling and posting photos and such.
What is absolutely mind blowing is that the whole time I've known him he has been so passionately against promoting publicly who he is dating. He posted maybe 2 photos of us, and not looking like we were together, over the time we dated, he never tagged me or mentioned me or referenced me or anything on social media because he wanted to keep me in his private life. He never used those silly love hearts of blowing kisses smiley faces or anything. . He didn't want any of his friends to know me, he was protective because of an ex who cheated on him with his friends. He said he didn't deny our relationship if someone asked. I respected that, however there is a fine line between privacy and being hidden.
Talk about extremes. It took 5 days, and his new girlfriends name and photo of them being 'close' is public (and actually public, I can see it and I'm blocked) his relationship status was official after 5 days. Photos of them holding hands! This is beyond anything he shared when he was with me, he referred to her as his beautiful girl in a status. This is extreme for him. He is not being himself, just last week he was in love with me. I can't help but see this as a rebound but he said he has chemistry with her, and clearly likes her enough to promote it to the extreme. I know he's going through a hard time with work, family, living, and me obviously, but it's so bizarre to see how he is acting with her. He's either not being honest with her, doing anything to impress her, he's not being true to himself. I'm confused
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Maybe he feels that focusing his attention on someone new and cutting ties with you is the best way to move on. That would make sense, with him telling you he'll always love you and then bam, you're blocked on FB and other medias and he is effectively not having contact with you.
As for the sudden change in how he's showing his relationship, maybe he just wants to try things different this time. Different people bring out different qualities in us, maybe she's got him feeling highly motivated, and loved, and motivated to show off that love. It is awfully quick, but I suppose ultimately that is not the point. The point is, it IS happening.
He has chosen to go a different direction and it doesn't matter why or how, it only matters that that's what he wants. If you love him too, then you serve him best by letting go.0