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My relationship of 7 years with my first love ended almost a year ago. We were a on and off again relationship. Never broken up longer then a couple months and that was only once. The rest were more like a couple weeks. We lived together for most of it. The biggest thing I can suggest is to re-evaluate your relationship you've had with him. Was it really all that amazing? Did you truly treat you well? Did he take your feelings into consideration? Was he ever cold? Or distant? Have a way to make you feel everything was your fault? And I mean really be honest. (Way hard to do. But if you really break it down and allow yourself to be honest on things you will kick yourself for what you let that man get away with) I thought I was just being supportive, a good girlfriend to be so understanding of who he is. Dig deep. Also if he is so happy with out you, why do you want him to come see you? Men who love there women... Are not happy away from them. Especially for long periods of time. Have you ever seen "He's just not that into you?" If a man wants to see you... he will find away (and not make you feel crummy for doing it.) Honestly my first step to get away was to distance myself and at the same time... start looking for Mr. Newbie <--- We like him. He is going to be better then Mr. First :( Now I would say I met about 3 awful men, 2 okay men, had conversations with 100 other men I never bothered giving my number or meeting up with before finding Mr. Newbie. What set him apart from the rest? I felt at ease with him. Comfortable being myself from the first 5 minutes I met him. (BEWARE) This is were Mr. Ex may want to re-enter your new life. But I personally only thought about Newbie. I wanted my ex to go away so I could see this new guy who after only a couple days was putting a smile on my face by sheer thought alone. I knew a few years before I my Ex was not for me. But I didn't know anything better. Why start over? Why re-learn someone all over? Except new things that irritate you? And have them get to know you? Because even though you can't see any possible way it could be true... It truly is worth it. You truly are worth it. Forget Mr. I am at peace in my apartment with out you. And find Mr. I can't wait to see you.