Last night I found an email exchange between my boyfriend and his soon to be ex-wife. His ex is planning on moving to Florida and taking their 12 year old child. I know my boyfriend is upset about this but feels he doesn't have the funds to fight her in court to block the move. In his email correspondence he tells her he'll break up with me and move to Florida. He told her he has no intent of them rekindling their relationship and he definitely wants the divorce done before she moves. He's been telling me we will get married and he wants to spend his life with me. We even bought an engagement ring together (actually I paid for it as he has no money). However, he's been telling me he's waiting to propose to me until after he's divorced. He's already been separated 4.5 years. He's promised me that we will spend the rest of our lives together. Anyways, he tells his ex he'll break things off with me in April or May at the latest. Nothing has happened yet and he's not acting very different. Nothing that would have been a hint that he plans on dumping me. This email exchange was around spring break time. He goes on to say to not say anything to their daughter because he doesn't want me to know he moves to Florida until after he gets there. He's afraid I know his co-workers and it would get leaked that he plans to bail on his company. She goes on to tell him to stay with me while he can so he can get his finances in order. She encourages him to not break up with me yet so he won't be financially strapped. His response is it's not fair to lead me on and he can't go the whole summer without taking care of this. WTF. In the mean time I wrote him a very nice note about our relationship as I wanted to see his response. I reminded him of the hopes and promises we've made to each other and how happy we have been. He responded that it was very sweet and kissed me. He assured me all his promises he's made to me are still true. Of course when I asked him what his plan was this morning for getting the divorce completed he got upset. He yelled that he didn't want to spend thousands of dollars and he just wanted to wait out his ex to see if she'd sign the documents. I urged him to reconsider waiting to propose to me then. If it's going to be even more of a wait I want his solid (visible - i.e. ring) commitment. It's been driving me nuts to have this engagement ring I can't wear! Thoughts?
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I am guessing he doesn't know you read this email?
I think you know what the right answer is and you don't want to accept it to be true. I know its not what you want to here but based on what you have written I strongly feel he is just using you for financial support. I would confront him on this email, obviously it is likely to cause a large argument between you both but it would surely bring out the truth right?0