But I'm still very confused by these things. She doesn't want to get back together, she wants to just be friends, but she wants me to do some relationshippy things with/for her. I miss the closeness we had, and I feel like she does too, particularly after yesterday, but if she truly missed it, wouldn't she want to get back together? I'm not being needy or desperate, bombarding her with texts and calls. In fact, she usually contacts me first. I'm working out regularly and watching my health, something I'd never done while we dated, and she's noticed and commented on the improvement. I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I love her and I just want her back. Thanks GAG
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She likes the intimacy of being with you without the pressure of a relationship and all that comes with it. It probably also makes her feel good knowing that you love her and will do those things for her, although it isn't very fair to you since you want more.
I don't think you are doing anything wrong, it seems she just doesn't want a relationship (like gf/bf) for whatever reason; however, she does want to have someone around and to do stuff with that she knows loves her unconditionally
You should probably just talk to her about you're feeling. Explain that you don't especially like the position you are in because it is kind of like running a race and seeing a finish line except every step you take the finish line moves further and further away. If you want a relationship and don't want the status quo tell her that. Explain that you don't want to push her away but you actually want more and ask her what she thinks