If your ex was a dirty perpetually lying cheater who

Was ridiculously skilled in manipulation, almost to the point of potential sociopath...who screwed you over in some pretty big ways...and who karma never seems to come around for...would u...if you knew they were in a serious relationship and continuing with said behavior, let the new love interest know to investigate and not trust this person if you came across their contact information? Not that I wanna hurt the new person, but I would like to see my ex go down. And considering the newest affair is with a coworker...id like to see the ex run a little scared. I wanted to let the person in the relationship know anonymously to have the ex followed or something instead of confronting because my ex is good on their feet when it comes to lying. Who would or would not do this? Why or how? This person burned me bad and its been close to 7 years now, and although I've moved on with my life, I cannot get over what was done.


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  • If you were to involve yourself with your ex's new relationship, not only will you come off as a deranged stalker you will unequivocally let him know he still has power over you. Which to me means that you're letting him win.

    Your attempt to sabotage your ex will only backfire on you. She will come to see him as the victim and more than likely your actions will have the exact opposite effect of your intention. You will drive them closer together because nothing bonds people more than adversity. She will see your actions as an attack on their relationship not as a kindness to her. Which it really isn't because your motivation is revenge not sympathy. In my mind, you're pretty much stooping to his level - you should strive to be above that. Don't allow him to make you into something you despise.

    I know how easy it is to let anger take a hold of you, especially if it's due to a deliberate act of cruelty. But this man has already taken up too much of your life - 7 YEARS! - and to allow him to consume you even further is sad. You said you moved on with your life, so my suggestion is to continue just that - moving on.

    Karma isn't for your personal gratification, it's the Universe's way of balancing the scale.

    Please know, I feel for you, but you are going to have to let this go. Forgive him for your sake and stop giving him prime real estate in your head. You've suffered enough - really.

    Best of luck.

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  • If the new pwerson can't see through your ex on their own, yur anonaymous letter is not going tohelp them. Your ex will just say you're a vindictive vixen, and the new love interest will no doubt believe him.

    IF you are going to do anything like this, go talk to the new love interest FACE to FACE, over coffee or something like that, where she can gain confidence that you're not just another 'crazy ex.' Make sure and say things that you can prove, objectively.

    Don't just rant about him being a sociopath, etc. Give specific examples of what he did, examples that you can prove actually happened.

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  • You should just forget him altogether. Block off contact with him.

    Just give the person he'll be with a fair warning and let her figure things out.

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What Girls Said 2

  • welcome to the club..i would love nothing more than to see the same thing happen, but she doesn't need your help and this would be a continuous cycle on and on ,u can't stop him,hes an a**hole , socio path,narc like my ex..they are low lives who have no empathy for human beings..i wonder if you dated my ex

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  • If he's had sex with you while with this new person, I might consider it. However, just because he treated you poorly doesn't mean he will do the same to her. Move on, stay away, and let him dig his own grave.

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