My ex and I were together for 7 long years. We had a very close friendship before we started dating.We were engaged for 2 years and lived together. Everything was going great until we had to get down to business with wedding planning (particularly paying for things) . But he was still treating me wonderfully and we were happy. Then he had some family drama after an uncle died in a car accident. He became angry and negative all the time. All I tried to do was listen and be there. But eventually, he made comments like " I can't trust anyone", and "i have no faith in anyone, no one is there for me". Mind you I have put my heart on the line or this guy in the past and always been there for him. I was deeply hurt by these comments and started to ask questions. If you don't trust me and you don't feel I'm here for you, why do you want to marry me? I just kept trying to comfort him anyway. Then one day he decided he just wanted to spend some time alone so he went to his moms all day. A couple days later- he broke the news that he wanted to leave, no longer wanted to marry me, and thought I would be happier with someone else. I kept my cool. Yes I cried, but I didn't beg or plead. I simply told him Id prefer to try to work it out and that I love him. He said he wanted to leave so I said I understand and let him go. He stayed with me for 3 days after. Finally I told him if he wants to leave he should leave. Then he was supposed to pick up his things while I was working... 2 weeks went by and he had packed almost nothing. Tired of feeling confused when I would come home to see his things still there. I called his mom and cried while I had to pack his things...and I didn't even want to break up. I told him that we shouldn't talk for a while. He had a hard time accepting this and never really stopped trying to talk to me. recently he is seeing someone new (actually started seeing her like a week after moving out) but has been begging me to meet up with him this weekend. I'm so torn. We are supposed to meet in a public place. He has said he will have the entire day dedicated to our meeting... but if I want to leave after 5 min its fine just as long as I meet him... what is this?
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listen,he met her before you broke up,trust me,thats why he would say he didn't trust people and had no faith in anyone,he said that because he was not being honest with u,its no coincidence that he was dating her two weeks after the break up..when they change out of the blue like he did,something is amiss and trust me the uncles death was just another excuse ,even if it did happen.I think the whole wedding expense mayhave been what pushed him over the edge..many men hate that whole mushy theme..its more of a girl thing,if its up to a man they just rather say the vows and call it a day,wedding days are a big thing but marriage is what really counts.1