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You want him to give you an honest answer about your current relationship, and yet you don't know either. It's entirely likely that he is being honest in saying he doesn't know. Under the circumstances, it seems reasonable that neither of you would really know. The question I would ask yourself is what do you want the relationship to be. Whoever comes to a firm decision about what they want will have more influence on the direction of the relationship. If neither of you makes a decision, the relationship with chart its own course.