My ex and I had an amazing relationship until he decided one day that he doesn't want a relationship anymore.. it was hard for me but I agreed and left him, but after that he never stopped calling and msging. I disappeared after that and stopped answering his calls for almost a month. we met again we started going out and having fun .. he is still the same gentle man I fell in love with. he is funny, generous, helpful and amazing. he always help me, never ignores my calls , he didn't date any other girls and it seems he is not welling to. He never goes a day without calling or texting me. He cares about me, he gets jealous when I talk about other guys.
i finally got the courage to ask him if he wants us back, but his answer was " he doesn't want to commit in a relationship " and he is just happiest with me that's why he didn't leave..
I'm so confused, I couldn't stop crying because I really love him and I love how he treats me and I'm so happy with him..
Tell me what to do !
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There's a saying that simply states "you can't have your cake and eat it too."
That's true, unless you're the lucky guy who is the ex that is using you.
He legitimately cares about you, no doubt, but he doesn't want to be committed to you. As a guy, this suggests to me that if any opportunity arises with someone else, physically speaking, he now has the freedom to take it. This guy seems to have an emotional attachment to you that he's not willing to separate from, but at the same time he has motives that drive him towards the possibility of being with another female.
This isn't about not having time for a relationship. This isn't about he wants what's best for you. This isn't about just needing a "break." This is one of two things...he wants the freedom to be physically intimate with other girls OR there is a certain girl that has caught his attention and he has feelings for her. Either way, he's texting, calling, and hanging with you to keep you at bay, so whenever he changes his mind, you'll be right there waiting, and he knows this.
Sure, he might tell you he's not dating other girls, but whatever, he wanted no commitment for a reason, and this is the most notable one. My advice to you would be to give him an ultimatum...its couple or nothing. You're either in his life as his girlfriend who he loves, or you're not in his life at all.
Don't give him the satisfaction of being there when he needs you. As the two of you stand now, you're in a committed relationship with him and he's not in one with you. That's unfair. Talk to him about this, and if he still doesn't want a relationship with you, tell him friendship is out of the question. The closer you are with him, the harder its going to be to get over him.
He's not as innocent as you think he is...2