Should we break up or take a break?

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months next week. From the start of the realationship, he really through himself in: I became apart of the family fast, he told me he loved me into a few weeks of being together. We had some really great times, he made me really happy, but at the same time, he has gotten cranky with me over small things numerous times as he has a short temper and said some rather nasty things.

About two weeks ago, we had a rather large fight and I was at the point of ending it. He conviced me to stay by saying he had depression and I think...I just generally felt sad when he cried and said he loved me. That coupled with me still caring for him, meant that I stayed. Before that we had plans to go away and meet the rest of his family. Since then I've told him I don't think its such a good idea and its changed the whole dynamic of our realationship. we've hardly spoken, when we have, its felt tense or happy enough, but like we aren't a couple, just friends. We haven't said I love you. He's told me the last week has been rough on him (He didn't like hearing I didn't want to met the family and I told him I wanted us to take a step back from being so serious) and that he now holds a lot of negative feelings for me.

So, should I suggest we take a break or just break up? I'm going to see him tomorrow but I still haven't been able to make up my mind. He said he no longer knows what to say or do about it all. He's my first boyfriend, and even though we have had a pretty up and down realationship, I do love him. I can't tell if I'm just scared to let go, or there actually if a point in trying to save things.


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  • just take a break, things aren't that bad between the both of you

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  • I have a third suggestion: Do nothing. Act no differently and be no more or less behavioral than you already are. My guess is that you both are thinking the same thing and that this will just dissolve by itself; his fanatical devotion has limits, including a time limit, and though it's obviously not reached you definitely sped up the counter by a bit.

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    • Of course if you wish to be dramatic you may indeed break it out; it is the best of the two options, but only because it's relatively obvious you're generally unhappy within the major contexts of the relationship and are happy on a "friend" level even though you consciously aren't with the concept due to titles.

  • Taking a good break is a good way to see things from a different perspective

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What Girls Said 2

  • I thinnk that you are jsut going to make things worse, try to talk to him about stuff more instead of just creating more problems.

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  • Ask your friends in rl,going online isn't the answer

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