My fiance left me back in March. We were together for seven years with a couple "breaks" in there. And every time he would start seeing some girl he barely knew right after we broke up. Well he did it again. And we were supposed to be married in September this year. Also each time he never really lets me go. Always checking up, getting jealous of other guys while he sees other girls. Same story there again. Tried telling him we shouldn't talk for a while. We went about a month wi th out contact then he saw me out one night and blew up my phone and my friends' phones looking for me the next day. I tried to keep a wall up. And keep him at a distance. We are not and have never been good at distance. I tried as hard as I could but eventually ended up letting most of my wall down. He was always having bre akdowns about us and how we aren't together... and that he is confused. I was always there to pick him up. But no one was picking me up when I had a breakdown. I suffered through without bothering him even though I thought and kinda hoped it would kill me. All this time he is in Facebook pictures with this girl with a huge smile on. And his family making comments about how happy he is. Again... almost every day he's smiling for pics... I get a text or phone call. And he's panicked and misses me and doesn't know what he's doing and it got to a point where I couldn't handle it anymore. he's getting counseling. And he says that the girl he's seeing is fully aware that he is still in love with me but she chooses to stay. Others say there's no way she knows Because shed be gone if she did. I don't know what to believe. We decided to not be in contact for a while (months) unless there's and emergency of some sort. While I know this is really to my benefit...I just miss him so much. He has helped me through so much hardship in my life regardless of our relationship problems. Wr have always had each others backs against other people. I keep trying to stop missing him. I'd like to fall in love with someone new but I can't stop thinking about him :'( I'm lost and don't know what to do.
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I too was just going through this exact situation. Unfortunately, I am 39, and my ex is 39. He acts like he has the emotional maturity of guys your age. I can tell you, they don't change much with age. So, with that being said, you will get through it! My ex and I were together off and on for 2 years. I did the same thing as you and let him come back each time. I met him going through a divorce. Even though different circumstances, the bottom line is FEAR OF COMMITMENT! The two women mine got into a relationship right after, within weeks, could not threaten him. One lived 4 hours away, and now the new one just got a divorce and lives over an hour away. I wanted marriage, he has had two failed. Yours is just young and does not know any better. The other reason is habit. Yes, it is hard to have people leave our lives sometimes because they have been a part of it for so long. Bad habits are hard to break! So, with that being said, you need to do what I did. Stay away! Cry, sleep, mourn, talk to friends who will not tire of hearing about him, and eventually you will start taking care of yourself, get your confidence up, and then, when you start to notice other guys, you will know you are healing! Please try hard not to make him jealous because you know you will get a response from him. You don't need this right now. NO CONTACT whatsoever! Trust me, I have to look at pictures on Facebook as well, and you know what, it does not bother me as much now that it has been since March. Do not date right now. That will make it worse. You do not have to get even, or worry about being alone while he is not. Trust me, you will be the better person for it in the end!0