He told me he needed to take some time to find himself again and work on himself. He said he wasn't happy in his life and he had to bounce back from this before he picked up his life and moved away (we had been discussing moving together). I was crushed and let him have it but then I didn't talk to him for 4 days. All of a sudden he sends me two texts one day, another the next and I just don't know what to say. I asked him if he saw a future with me in it and he said he has no idea. This makes me this its over. When we are together in proximity nothing can break us but when we are apart it seems like everything falls apart. Should I erase him from my life, or be there to support him through this hard time. I keep getting mixed signals...I don't want to be needy or clingy but he's my heart and I don't want to just let it go that easily.We have been best friends/dated LDR for nearly 4 years and I just don't know what to do. I Haven't heard from him in 2 days now. He has been the person the entire time that has been putting in the majority of the effort to make us work. Now all of a sudden...the tables have turned. What is he thinking? Thanks for your advice in advance .
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Let me say that I totally understand you wanting to listen to your heart. If he's telling you that he needs time to work on himself then, even though many guys use this excuse, it probably is true. You can't fully focus on yourself if you have someone else you're always thinking about and wanting to be with. That coupled with his personal issues makes me think that it is better for him to be alone and for y'all to break up. It's going to be horrible on you since you're so devoted to him and making things work. But I would go ahead with the break up. There's nothing you can do to change how he feels. It is interesting that he was the one putting in the majority of the work but now it's changed. That's how it is with people, guys especially.
I'd advice you against contacting him once you break up. Do not talk to him until you have completely healed from everything. You'll know you're healed when you can hear his name and not get a pang in your chest.
And, if it is meant to be, it will be. I was in an LDR too with my first love and he was my heart and my best friend. He told me he didn't see me in his future as well. And I've finally started to accept that he'll never come back to me an if he ever does it'll be too late by then. I encourage you to keep hope but at the same time my false hope has caused me to continue to hurt. But talking about it, even after almost a year without him, still helps.
I wish you the very best of luck.