My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 8 years. there is a blond tramp that he is always eyeing and giving looks and winking at when we go to the movies. [she works there] He always used to let me play with his phone and download games and stuff, but now he won't even let me look at it. another thing is his Facebook. I always used to play on his games and stuff when I was at his house, but he changed his password and blocked me from his Facebook so now even when I am on my account, I can't see his friends.
This is NOT like him. he used to be the one who started the kissing, and now, when I kiss him, he kind of pulls back and acts defensive. if he is cheating, how can I catch him? should I just sit back and watch as that hooker from the theatre makes googly eyes at him when we are supposed to be out on a date? HELP ME PLEASE.
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I'm not gonna tell you he's cheating,because I'm not him and he's the
ONLY one who can say for sure or not! So, I'm gonna give some advice
just talk to him. People underestimate a conversation, but this under
handed stuff to try see if he's cheating or not,is only gonna come back to bite you
later (especially, if he's not cheating).
1) Don't go snooping through his phone. Because, a) if he's not
cheating and catches you looking at his phone, all the trust will be
gone from the relationship and without trust, you have diddle sqat! b)
any text could look suspious if you want to be and since you're conviced
he's cheating, that's very likely and just a bad idea all around!
2) Don't break up with him and with the following pharse "I know you're cheating
on me!" Then he'll say "what, do you have prof of this?" And, you'll say
"No, but I just know". Yeah, that's NOT a good idea. Don't break up with
him, if your gut REALLY tells you somethings up (and I believe in trusting your gut
and the vibes others are sending out that might seem off) just tell him you
want to take a break for a bit, because you need some space. And, if he say's okay and you
see him out with other woman, then you have your answer to the cheating question,
then you break up with him. But, don't do it before you know for sure.
3) Don't try to set a trap for him, because he'll lie about the situation if
he feels backed in the corner and you want the truth. But, you won't get
it that way.
The best thing you can do, is just have converstaion with him. Don't accuse
him of anything or come out guns blazing, because his guard will go up right
away and he'll get denfensive and you'll never get anywhere. Just talk from the
heart and tell him how you feel or have been feeling about certain actions of
his lately and tell him you want the truth (good, bad or otherwise). Just be honest
but say how" the behavior with the phone and Facebook are not him and so it feels
little odd to you and you're wondering why sudden change in behavior? Then say
you feel rejected when you kiss him, because he pulls back and it hurt you feelings.
Then say, you just want to know what's going on, whatever it may be" That's the
best most mature way to handle it, I hope this helps. Good luck : )0