...loves you and you love them as well but you two cannot be in a relationship? The variables of disabling the existence of a close relationship can be anything, from the fact that the person is your ex to religious differences to where the person lives.
I have a feeling that I am getting into this type of situation so I wanted to see what you would do or what you think SHOULD be done.
Please if you believe that what should be done is what is stated by multiple options shown in the poll, by all means write a comment and state what those options are.
- You would leave them; a decision would be made to end the relationship/friendship and start ignoring themVote A
- You would try to solve the problems that disable you from having a relationshipVote B
- You would stay as friends/forget about having a relationship with themVote C
- You would make the person change their mind and starting working towards having the relationshipVote D
- You make sure that they are honest (about the love they say or think they have for you; about the reasons why a relationship cannot happen)Vote E
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i was in your situation so here's what I did and how it ended :
really liked this girl (I still do). She does too or at least that's what I strongly believe. We were at college together. she rejected me once in a really weird way. at first I was OK and had no remorse towards her but she wasn't even looking at me so I decided to give her space and stop interacting thinking she was pissed at me (though she said she's not). When I started avoiding her she started posting breakup songs on her FB. after about a month I send her an Easter message. She started posting love songs and all kinds of quotes.
so one day I thought it would be better for her to know so I just told her how I feel, how much I care about her. and also that for now we can't be together because I have some other things on my mind and wouldn't be able to give her all the time and energy she deserves. I said all those things without waiting to see if she says she likes me back because it would have been deceiving ( at least that's how I saw it ) AND I had no doubt she loves me too. I also said I'm not expecting her to wait for me, but when I'll feel prepared for it, if nothing else happens in the meantime in her love life I'll get back to her. It's not another girl and I told her that.
She denied liking me, took down all the love quotes (which were about how she's waiting for smth important to happen and that she'll fight for it) and love songs from her Facebook. said it's only my imagination playing tricks on me, that I'm being subjective and refused to talk when I started asking about other signs I saw.
Went to the seaside with a bigger group. She slept with some guy. Next day she was trying to get my attention and kept staring at me or looking my way. she started posting breakup songs again. it's been a month without contact. really hurt me for not wanting to say how she feels because I wanted to fight for this relationshipt and get it right.
I'm caught in the middle here and don't know what to do. I kind of want to hear her SAY IT BACK because I know what I saw! I don't think really get my hopes high she'll admit it. I don't feel I have the power to try and open the subject once more and talk to her since she said I'm seeing things. PLUS she slept with the other guy for god sake. My mind is a mess right now. So it's going to be very hard if one of you two refuses to fight for it! I can't really say in which voting category I'm in.1
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