My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. I have been living with him for two months and lately we have been arguing more often than not. Every time we argue he ALWAYS says “this isn’t working out” , “I’m done” or “I can’t do this anymore” . Last night we were arguing and he said that he wanted to take a break. So I packed some stuff up (in the meantime, he was in another room and had no idea I was leaving. I actually left then returned for my phone. That is when he found out I was leaving; he never actually asked me to leave) and went to my house. Once before, I had packed a bag to go stay at a friends after an argument but he grabbed my bag and threw it, then later asked me nicely not to leave. Anyways, after I left he called me right away but I didn’t answer. Then he sent me a text saying that we need to work some stuff out and that if I need to, I can stay at his house (our home). We had a conversation the following morning (this morning) and he told me that we do need a break. He said numerous times that if I needed to stay at our home, I could. He said if I did that then we just wouldn’t talk to each other. We could just pretend that the other person is not there. I told him in order to take a break, we need to be apart. Which he said he understood but still stressed I could sleep in our bed. Does it seem like he wanted me to leave?
So, I guess I am a bit confused. What do you make of this situation? He clearly wants a break. He said that this morning. Also, 99.9999999% of “breaks” are really because people are too chicken sh*t to actually go through with the break up OR they just want to bang other people. This kind of feels like it could lead to a break up, but definitely not the latter. He said that just because we are having major issues doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care. What in the world is going on? Any responses from people truly putting effort in to their answers is much appreciated!
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It seems to me like you guys moved pretty fast in moving in together after only 5 months and maybe now he's having second thoughts. Clearly he does care about you as a person as he offered you a place to stay but I think the best thing you can do for yourself is to leave.
Maybe you will work things out when he has some space to think things over or maybe you guys will break up. But to be honest if you're in a relationship that is so volatile in its early stages, perhaps the best thing to do would be to break up, at least for the time being, to gain some perspective.0