When you love someone, and have done everything good for them, proved to them you’re a good person and do a lot of them. However you can't be with them because they are scared so much because they have been abused with their past boyfriend of 4 years so its hard for them to take a step with me even though they know I'm not like that.
Basically I havn't even had a chance for the person I love, all because of someone who never truly loved them in the first place, abused, hit, hurt, ignored them etc
I still to this day have never met, spoken with this girl in almost 2 years, that's how scared she is of a relationship even though she does want to be with me she can't take that one step.
I'm more sorry and angry at the guy who abused this girl in the first place and ruined my chance.
I've only manage to talk to her online, she won’t use a phone as she fears she might get track by her ex, she won’t call me out of fear, she won’t allow me to call her, she won’t me met, all these things she wants to do but can't.
She tells me that I'm the only person she wants to be with and trust and loves but she can't make or take a step even when I’ve done all I can to understand what she went through.
I still talk to her online, and still care about her but after two years I just don't know anymore.
But I feel like I've failed as a, because I've never had a girlfriend and the first time I feel like I've found someone I really care about it feels like I can't have that chance because of someone else s crime.
For me it’s the never knowing that is the worst, but at least I was good to her but it still hurts everyday to know I will never get a chance.
I would like to hear from people who have gone through this kind of thing. Sorry if this was a little too long.
Yes I was naive!
The world is a sick and messed up place
I have to move on and restart my life due to the years and time that has been wasted.
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Well I never wnet through the kind of thing where I was physically abused, but when someone so much as takes you for granted, it can leave scars. When someone mistreats you in any way, it can leave you scared for the next person, or if you give that same person another chance, it can leave you with side effects from the things that happened before, even if the person never mistreats you again, apart of you still expects them to behave the way they did, and you might have a lingering resentment for that person and if you haven't gotten over what that person did, it could make it bad for the next person that you are with in terms of building a relationship and it could make it bad for that same person if you're still with them and want to move on and build a new relationship, but ultimately, bad for yourself if you know you want to have something meaningful and you know you don't want the past to control you for the rest of your life. Time heals all wounds, ya know? When someone is emotionally scorned, it can take a long time to heal, depending on the damage that has been done. But if you really do care for this girl, don't lose hope, she just might find a way to you. She just has to get over the scars. Just reassure her that she has nothing to be afraid of and that you'll always be there for her no matter what. Some people are physically abused and they are afraid of boys, girls, or that makes them permiscuous, confused whatever. The bottom line is that the abuser is wrong. But I hope this helped. Good luck with everything. God bless. Peace :)1