This is mines:
1st guy: I didn’t know, took him back until he dumped me then I just got over it
2nd guy: I dumped him when I found out I was probably his 5th f***ing gf
3rd guy: this one was a killer it hurt like hell, he cheated on me while were together I suspected it but sorta ignored it because I was lame & I loved him so much I did not want to bring it up
Then dumps me for his friends friend, I slept with him 8 days post break then he just did not want my p**** any more. I did all sorts of things to get him bk he bailed you wanna know why because he was cheating on his wife with me (I did not know of her). I finally left him alone. I am over it now ( its been 3 months), I learned so much about who I am and what I want. I really have changed
If you took back a cheater did it work out?
What did you learn from your relationship with a cheater please share
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Yeah. My current boyfriend kissed another girl 3 months into our relationship. It was in high school, neither one of us could drive yet to see the other and it was one of his girl friends who had a license and drove to his house that day.
When I found out I broke up with him. We stayed apart for a while and then started talking again, he seemed genuinely remorseful and wanted me back so I decided to give him another chance. He doesn't associate with that girl anymore (deleted her from fb, his phone, etc.) and he hasn't cheated since. And we've been together for 4 years total.
If someone cheated on me by having sex, I would break up with them and never take them back. But I think kissing is not as big of a deal (though it is still disrespectful and I told him that when we broke up). But I think it's more of a mistake than fully having sex with someone else while in a relationship. I believe in second chances and I'd rather be forgiving than hold grudges. And it ended up working out because we're together now and he's faithful so I don't regret taking him back.
I think it just depends on the situations and circumstances. I learned a lot about myself, I actually think it made me a stronger individual even though I took him back, we were not together for like 4 or 5 months after I dumped him. But I know if I mistakingly kissed someone else and was genuinely sorry and would never do it again, I would hope he would give me a second chance as well. We're both in college now and haven't had any more problems.
Contrary to popular belief, just because I took him back, I still think I have a lot of self-respect. I don't think all women who stay with cheaters don't respect themselves. I think it just depends on the guy and what they did, like I mentioned before. So, I'm glad I was able to forgive him and that he's very faithful since I took him back. But if he did something else I would leave him and never look back. I only believe in ONE second chance.