so I'll start off by stating my father isn't a great guy. he's been in and out of jail my entire life and over the year has physically, mentally, and verbally abused my mom. he has also had a drug and alcohol issue his entire life.
well he just got out of jail last month and (although justified) my mother refuses to help him in any way possible. she'll barely talk to him, help him get on his feet, or anything of the sort.
i realize why she doesn't want to help him, but no one else can. no one on my moms side likes him and his family is in another state (and he can't leave/parol). I don't know it just breaks my heart to imagine being in his position with no support whatsoever, and because of the fact that he's spent so much time in jail he has NO IDEA how to survive in real life, let alone survive by himself.
and I just found out that he couldn't pay to stay in the halfway house so I guess now he's just on the street
i don't even know what I'm asking for here, I guess just how to cope with this? I mean I can't help him since I'm going back to school soon and really have nothing to offer
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I'm so sorry for you in these circumstances.
This is a grown man who continues to make the same bad decisions. As your mom has already discovered, at some point continuing to have a relationship with this man will be self-destructive and toxic for you. Then you too will have to cut the ties and not look back. This will NOT be easy. Get some support.
This, for you. . . .
Dreams are always crushing when they don't come true. But it's the simple dreams that are often the most painful because they seem so personal, so reasonable, so attainable. You're always close enough to touch, but never quite close enough to hold and it's enough to break your heart.
-----Nicholas Sparks, Three Weeks With My Brother0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE