We were together for about two years before I broke up with him in May. From there for about two months, we were on and off working things out until back two-three weeks ago when he completely called it off. So during the breakup, we always saw each other, hung out, talked, and so on. He said I deserve someone better and that I should move on. He said that he just wants to have fun right now without having to think twice about hurting someone's feelings but still cares a lot about me and will always love me. So for about an entire week, I didn't hear from him which is the longest time we haven't heard from each other. I sent an email stating how I realized I made a lot of mistakes and that I have always blamed him for my unhappiness when it was really just me. I was insecure, jealous, and I compared him and our relationship to other people. He replied back two days later saying he was very surprised but thought he had made it clear to me that he has moved on and that I should move on too and that he has no intention of wanting to work things out. I didn't reply back until this week when I asked him to just still think about what I said because I meant every word. He responded saying that there's nothing more to think about but if I care about him as much as I say then I should be happy and support his decision. And that I should really move on because if I keep holding on then its going to push him away further from even being friends or comfortable enough for him to talk to me again. I replied saying I understand and I'll respect his decision and how he's feeling...that I'll be here if he needs me whenever he's ready to talk. However, I have a bad tendency to overanaylze things so I kept wondering does that mean he doesn't care about me or will be there for me like he told me before cause he didn't say that in the email. so I did a boo-boo and text him last night asking if we could talk cause I wanted to ask a few questions but then I realized I shouldn't have so I text back saying its okay and have a good night. he sent another email this morning saying how its starting to bother him that I'm trying to communicate with him and that NO he doesn't want to answer any questions or talk about anything about our past relationship. that I need to stop obessing about his life without me and to stop asking his friends about me cause that's overstepping the boundaries of his privacy. He said he doesn't want to be mean or anything but to get over it. He's very blunt, firm, and clear to the point like that. Surprisingly, I took the email very well. I told him that I figured he didn't want to talk last night which was fine and I wasn't mad or anything when he didn't reply and to please not think differently about me.
So now my question: To me it seems like WEEKS AND MONTH but technically its only a week between each communication time. If I gave him his space and time, like months with no contact at all...will things change? will I hear from him? will he miss me?
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He may miss you if you carry on with your life and let him go for the moment. If he has any feelings for you and hopes of getting back with you it work out with time. At this point he is ready to move on and he is trying to keep a decent friendship with you, but you behavior is the type that may cause him to completely cut the friendship. Continue to be his friend and do not make any intrusions into his life. Let him come back to you on his own and if he chooses. Space is not guarantee he will return, so in the mean time when you are ready consider meeting new guys. Work on yourself - those issues that lead you to be insecure and jealous. Asking his friends about him and all that behavior would be bothersome to most guys. Work on being his friend and showing him that you can be strong. Be grateful for his friendship and work on maintaining that.0