I'm a 27 year old man, and I was involved in just one relationship in my life. It was for 2 years, when I was aged between 21 and 23. The reason for breakup is simple. She actually cheated on me with her own uncle. I had heard a lot about incest, but I was shocked when I saw it happen with my own girlfriend. And what the hell, she was 20 and he was 60. I actually found this out from a different source. When I asked her about it, she vehemently denied it, but when I showed her the proof, she did admit having sex with him, but behaved as if that was no big deal. I dumped her that very instant. She didn't seem to be too bothered by that, and she actually said "I'm willing to stay with you, but if you dump me, then its your loss, not mine. After all, you're just an average looking guy whereas I am a gorgeous girl who could probably give models a run for their money. Finding someone else is not a big deal for me, but it will be very difficult for you. I'll give you a week's time to reconsider your decision, and if you still want to dump me, you're most welcome". Of course, my decision never changed, because I loved her for her good nature and not her looks. So there was no point in continuing with her after I realized the truth about her, and her beauty meant nothing to me.
The most painful thing with my breakup was that she really WAS a genuine person until two months before our breakup. We were so serious about each other that we had actually decided to get married and have kids together. Even our families believed that we made a great pair (I'm referring to compatibility, and not looks). That uncle was actually someone whom she never even remembered because he stayed in a different country and she had only seen him when she was a 2 year old kid. All of this changed when he had come to our country on a business trip for 2 months. I just don't understand how he seduced her and slept with her. And the worst part is, that uncle too has a wife and grown up son who are very nice people, and are totally unaware of what he did.
I contemplated taking revenge on her by informing that uncle's wife about everything. She HAD to believe me, because I had solid proof. She would have divorced her husband and also taken my ex to task. But I never did that, because I'm a mild-mannered, emotional and sensitive person who'd rather avoid such unpleasant situations. The breakup was extremely painful for me, and I even went into acute depression and had to be treated by a psychiatrist.
4 years have passed since the breakup, and now I have completely gotten over her. I also have a fairly decent job as a software developer. I But the problem is, my past pains are preventing me from trying to date again. I'm terrified that what happened with my ex, might also happen with any other woman I might get into a relationship with. I know all women are not the same, but my previous painful experience has left me with deep emotional wounds. Please help me out.
Most Helpful Girl
I understand the fear of having your heart broken again, but by not taking a chance you are preventing your future soul mate from coming into your life, what your ex did is down right sick, and for her to truly believe she is that gorgeous is also proof of what a sick mind she has,learn from the past but don't bring it with you into the new love you will meet,what your ex did is not an everyday thing.You will meet the one and she will bring you love and happiness.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
That girl is f***ed up in the head, but you know what's the most sick thing about this that really pisses me off? She's right.
She is literally, ONE HUNDRED percent right about the breakup.
Even if you break up with her, it's not a big loss, you want to know why? It's cause she's beautiful. She'll find just some other sucker who will be willing to accept her in all of her insanity and incest loving. You, literally, mean, NOTHING to her cause you are easily expendable.
I hate the vanity of this world, cause it allows monsters like her to thrive in it.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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