Okay, my current girlfriend and I had been together for a year an a half, before we broke up. We were both at different schools, and only saw each other at most once a week, and for some reason her friends decided we shouldn't be together, so they pressured her constantly about leaving.
This isn't completely why we broke up, but when we argued or had small disagreements, it made it a lot harder to get out of, when she would always have these thoughts in the back of her head. Eventually she split and broke up with me in a "heat of the moment" argument.
We didn't see each other for about 8 months, but spoke occasionally to catch up and things. I was okay on my own, but I had never stopped loving her, the times we spent together in person (though there weren't many) were amazing. So, 8 months down the line, we decide to meet up, I saw everything I had ever loved in her that day, we were both different from being alone, but in a good way.
I think we have learnt from past mistakes, we are both a lot more independant of each other now, but still have a very close bond. She asked me to be with her when we met up, she said she regrets everything, and after all the time we've spent apart she still can't think of anyone but me. She said she was pressured into it, and didn't really know what she was doing until it was too late. I ofcourse said yes.
But here is the problem, her friends are also coming to my school (well, only 2-3 of them are a real problem). And they told her exactly this "I will lose all respect for you if you get back with him". She is really worried about losing her friends, because she said they "helped her take her mind off things" (I bet they did!smh).
What can I do to help ease her mind off things? I guess I can't choose her friends but I really don't think they should get involved in our relationship, because they have no idea what we are like when we are together normally, and they only get told the bad things when she's upset.
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well it's very probabematic if she is so greatly influenced by her friends. it would concern me taht she isn't good at making decisions on her own.
why do you think that suggest that she should break up with you?
it seems to me that most women do this is they think the relationship is bad for the friend. it would be very concerning and selfish is they had no good reason for suggesting she break up with you1
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