This ex & I dated in High School for 3 years. We went to different colleges. It ended because we were fighting about the pros & cons of Mormonism of all things (funny because neither of us are Mormon). We abruptly ended the relationship at the conclusion of the fight. She's married & has children now. In her email she talks of wanting to go back in time and make "different decisions", feeling disconnected with her husband, general interest in what I'm doing & of course intimate details of our relationship that she likes to think back on.I want to approach this delicately. I'd like to craft a kind, sympathic response without enraging her husband (in the event he ever looks @ her email. I'm not looking to cause trouble or break up a home (happy or not). I feel that entertaining a friendship would be crossing a line. How would you handle this?
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i'd say something along the lines of... I think everyone looks back on life and things about how things would have played out differently if they had done this or that a certain way. but such is life, we made decisions at that time that we felt were right for ourselves. but as much as we can romanticize how something would have gone in hindsight we made the decisions we did adn there really is nothing we can do about it. make the best of your situation now and use your past to help you make your decisions going forward.
essentially what I think she is doing is going through a rough patch with her hubby and now looking back is seeing these silver linings of her past. she remembers a happier time and so it seems like an ideal thing but in reality it probably wasn't. I imagine you'll find the right thing to say but mostly I'd just remind her that things happen for a reason1