We were together for a year. All summer, he had very on-off behavior, into me one day then not into me the next. we didn't officially break up during that time but he was questioning his feelings for me and taking a lot of space.
After we jumped into a full relationship again, we broke up a month later for good. He was really sad and said the reason he never wanted to break up when we had issues before was because he was terrified of losing me. He said he still wanted to talk and hang out all the time and that he would be there in a second if I ever needed him. I thought he was just saying it to be nice, but he actually followed through and has been talking to me/wanting to hang out pretty much every day.
The breakup was five weeks ago. The first week I ignored him because I needed some space. He was persistent and clearly worried about not seeing me again. After a week of turning him down, I agreed to hang out.
He was very affectionate at first but his interest in me seems to change constantly. He still contacts me almost every day, but when we do hang out in person it's a 50/50 - half the time he seems totally into me and like my boyfriend, the other half it feels boring/he seems uninterested. I'd say like 75% of the time he initiates us hanging out.
So I don't know what I should do... I want him back... should I keep hanging out with him and basically giving him exactly what he wants, in the hopes he'll want me back? Or should I cut contact so he can finally see what life is like without me and miss me?
Please give me advice!
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You want a relationship. If he doesn't want a relationship with you, then you can't be with him, period.
Even if that doesn't get him back, you clearly need to cut contact so that you can MOVE ON. You're in limbo where you're at, because you're letting him string you along. You're just hurting yourself and dragging out the pain by doing this.
Either he'll be with you 100%, or you'll move on and find another guy who will be.1