Basically me and my ex split jan 2012 we reconciled in May til oct when I asked him to leave as I felt I jus didn't love him anymore! We have then been very on and off throughout this year until couple if months back he jus cut me dead only speaking about our son! By him doing this I had th chance to miss him and appreciate him and discovered not only did I love him I loved him more than I had ever done befote! I asked him to consider us getting back together and got a flat no I cried I begged etc etc and he was jus adamant he was never ever ever coming back! I know ther is a girl on the scene she's only really young though and I think could just be an ego boost! He took her out for first time at weekend but said they haven't spoke since and he's not sure he is seeing her again! Th past couple of days he has spoke slightly more and said he will read through th essay texts I have sent and consider what I am sayin but he doesn't think we can get back together! It's breaking my heart :(( I just want him to realize how different things would be and how I have a new found respect and love for him! He adores our son and is a wonderful dad so I'm shocked he won't even consider it for th sake of making his family work! I'm willing to put the leg work in and I don't wanna jump back into things I wanna build foundations but I jus don't know how to get through to him :(( x
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from his perspective I'd wonder if your feeligns now are only because distance makes the heart grow fonder, or we want what we don't have or any of those old sayings. It seems like you like him when he's not around but when you two are together it seems like the relationship is rather tense and conflicted.
i'd ask yourself what has really changed that you suddenly value him more than before? are you truly in love with him or missing him and wanting a sort of idealized based family?
basically I'd really reflect on whether or not it will work and so I'd take into consideration what wasn't working and whether or not things have really changed so that those things that weren't working will suddenly work now.
but from a guy perspective I'd be thinking that you only want me cause you don't have me and hate the idea of being alone or me being with someone else more than actually really wanting me now.0