When I left to go back home, he told my mom he was in love with me. But he also told her that he knew he is not good enough for me. He said he wants to be a better man for me.
My mom of course told me all this information and I thought it was very endearing and heartwarming. Several days later, I called my moms house and asked for him. He gets on the phone and confesses that he really likes me, but he said, "I really want to get my act together before I talk to you, because you deserve it." I told him I liked him too and I that I planned on going back here around Halloween.
A few days ago, my mom said he disappeared. I thought that was weird. She called me days later and told me there was small writeup about him in the newspaper for getting a dui, and they also got him with possession of weed, and driving with no licence. This is really disappointing to me. I don't know how to feel. I still really like him but if I have anything to do with him, he's going to need to at least stay out of trouble.
So I guess my question is, should I back to my moms house when I planned to, a week before Halloween, or should I wait because if I go, I know him and I will become involved but I'm wondering if it would be better if I wait. Thoughts?
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When you say he is troubled, is this about the drinking and smoking and previous lack of a job or is he emotionally or mentally troubled as well? Assuming it is primarily about those points you mentioned, it does seem like staying out of trouble might be a difficult stretch for him. If you decide to make a go of it with him, I think you have to expect him to slip up a lot more than most no matter how hard he tries to do the right thing. If this is intolerable, then it probably won't work out. If you feel like you can cut him slack on serious stuff provided he genuinely is trying, then it might work out.